I was told by my friend Che Harun Che Chat that Dr Shukri died last Wednesday. The news was confirmed by another sms by Yun on the same day of the details in preparing the jenazah.
Dr Shukri seems bery serious but actually could be the funiest person. If a joke is all about timing, then he has perfected it. His one liners are hilarious.
But he is also intelligent, thus his Dr title. It is sad that he has left us since the last time we communicate is via sms when he invited me for a crit. Unfortunately, I could not make it as there was another sudden commitment to be attended.
Bless his soul.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Yam Tuan
We have a new Yam Tuan Negri Sembilan yesterday 29th December 2008, on the first day of 1430 Hijrah.
Tuanku Mukhriz is the nephew of the Tuanku Jaafar and could have been the Yam Tuan 41 years ago had it not been for his age, 19 only at that time.
Also it is interesting to note the fllowings, based on an article by Arman Ahmad. (source http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Monday/National/2438810/index.pda)
The state, which had been receiving immigrants from Sumatra for hundreds of years, is ruled by a unique form of government.
Before it became known as Negri Sembilan, the area was ruled by the Sultan of Malacca. After Malacca was defeated by the Portuguese, it was ruled by the Johor sultanate.
By 1760, however, Johor, which was having trouble from the Dutch, decided to allow the state to find a raja or sultan from Minangkabau in Sumatra.
Between 1760 and 1770, a council of leaders known as the datuk-datuk penghulu luak (the predecessor of the datuk datuk undang today) left for Pagar Ruyong in Minangkabau in search of a leader.
The Raja of Pagar Ruyong -- who was believed to be a descendant of Alexander The Great, gave them a leader in the form of his son, Raja Mahmud. Raja Mahmud later became known as Raja Melewar when he came to Negri Sembilan.
When Raja Melewar died in 1795, instead of selecting his son as their new leader, the same council of leaders once again set out on a journey to their ancestral land.
This time, the Raja of Pagar Ruyong gave another one of his sons -- Raja Hitam as their new Yam Tuan. Raja Hitam married Raja Melewar's daughter, Tengku Aishah, but they had no children. He died in 1808.
Once again, the leaders of Negri Sembilan went to Minangkabau in search of someone to replace their leader.
The Raja of Pagar Ruyong at that time sent his son, Raja Lenggang. He wedded Raja Hitam's second daughter, Tengku Ngah, from another marriage. They had two sons -- Tengku Radin and Tengku Imam.Before he died in 1824, Raja Lenggang said it was his wish that Tengku Radin be made the Yam Tuan.
This time, the datuk datuk undang did not embark on a trip to meet the Raja of Pagar Ruyong.
Thus, for the first time in its history, Negri Sembilan had a hereditary leader.
Yam Tuan Radin ruled for 30 years before he died. Then, his brother, Yang di-Pertuan Imam, ruled for eight years. When he died, Negri Sembilan was plunged into uncertainty when Yam Tuan Radin's son, Tengku Antah, and Yang di-Pertuan Imam's son, Tengku Ahmad Tunggal, scrambled for the throne.
The council did not want to accept Tengku Ahmad Tunggal, so Tengku Antah became ruler until 1888. His son, Tuanku Muhammad, later took over until his death in 1933.
Tuanku Muhammad's son, Tuanku Abdul Rahman, took over in 1960. The latter's son, Tuanku Munawir, ascended the throne in 1960 and ruled until 1967.
When Tuanku Munawir died, his brother, Tuanku Ja'afar Tuanku Abdul Rahman, became the ruler of Negri Sembilan. -- Information from Warisan Diraja Negri Sembilan Darul Khusus
THE ROYAL LINEAGE
1. Raja Melewar 1773-1795 (invited)
2. Yam Tuan Hitam 1795-1808 (invited)
3. Yam Tuan Lenggang 1808-1824 (invited)
4. Raja Radin 1824-1861 (son)
5. Yang di-Pertuan Imam 1861-1869 (brother)
6. Yam Tuan Antah 1872-1888 (Raja Radin’s son)
7. Tuanku Muhammad 1888-1933 (son)
8. Tuanku Abdul Rahman 1933-1960 (son)
9. Tuanku Munawir 1960-1967 (son)
10. Tuanku Ja’afar 1967-2008 (brother)
Tuanku Mukhriz is the nephew of the Tuanku Jaafar and could have been the Yam Tuan 41 years ago had it not been for his age, 19 only at that time.
Also it is interesting to note the fllowings, based on an article by Arman Ahmad. (source http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Monday/National/2438810/index.pda)
The state, which had been receiving immigrants from Sumatra for hundreds of years, is ruled by a unique form of government.
Before it became known as Negri Sembilan, the area was ruled by the Sultan of Malacca. After Malacca was defeated by the Portuguese, it was ruled by the Johor sultanate.
By 1760, however, Johor, which was having trouble from the Dutch, decided to allow the state to find a raja or sultan from Minangkabau in Sumatra.
Between 1760 and 1770, a council of leaders known as the datuk-datuk penghulu luak (the predecessor of the datuk datuk undang today) left for Pagar Ruyong in Minangkabau in search of a leader.
The Raja of Pagar Ruyong -- who was believed to be a descendant of Alexander The Great, gave them a leader in the form of his son, Raja Mahmud. Raja Mahmud later became known as Raja Melewar when he came to Negri Sembilan.
When Raja Melewar died in 1795, instead of selecting his son as their new leader, the same council of leaders once again set out on a journey to their ancestral land.
This time, the Raja of Pagar Ruyong gave another one of his sons -- Raja Hitam as their new Yam Tuan. Raja Hitam married Raja Melewar's daughter, Tengku Aishah, but they had no children. He died in 1808.
Once again, the leaders of Negri Sembilan went to Minangkabau in search of someone to replace their leader.
The Raja of Pagar Ruyong at that time sent his son, Raja Lenggang. He wedded Raja Hitam's second daughter, Tengku Ngah, from another marriage. They had two sons -- Tengku Radin and Tengku Imam.Before he died in 1824, Raja Lenggang said it was his wish that Tengku Radin be made the Yam Tuan.
This time, the datuk datuk undang did not embark on a trip to meet the Raja of Pagar Ruyong.
Thus, for the first time in its history, Negri Sembilan had a hereditary leader.
Yam Tuan Radin ruled for 30 years before he died. Then, his brother, Yang di-Pertuan Imam, ruled for eight years. When he died, Negri Sembilan was plunged into uncertainty when Yam Tuan Radin's son, Tengku Antah, and Yang di-Pertuan Imam's son, Tengku Ahmad Tunggal, scrambled for the throne.
The council did not want to accept Tengku Ahmad Tunggal, so Tengku Antah became ruler until 1888. His son, Tuanku Muhammad, later took over until his death in 1933.
Tuanku Muhammad's son, Tuanku Abdul Rahman, took over in 1960. The latter's son, Tuanku Munawir, ascended the throne in 1960 and ruled until 1967.
When Tuanku Munawir died, his brother, Tuanku Ja'afar Tuanku Abdul Rahman, became the ruler of Negri Sembilan. -- Information from Warisan Diraja Negri Sembilan Darul Khusus
THE ROYAL LINEAGE
1. Raja Melewar 1773-1795 (invited)
2. Yam Tuan Hitam 1795-1808 (invited)
3. Yam Tuan Lenggang 1808-1824 (invited)
4. Raja Radin 1824-1861 (son)
5. Yang di-Pertuan Imam 1861-1869 (brother)
6. Yam Tuan Antah 1872-1888 (Raja Radin’s son)
7. Tuanku Muhammad 1888-1933 (son)
8. Tuanku Abdul Rahman 1933-1960 (son)
9. Tuanku Munawir 1960-1967 (son)
10. Tuanku Ja’afar 1967-2008 (brother)
Monday, December 22, 2008
Year End
The New year 2009 is around the corner and we are facing the same problem again.
Yes, it is the time to raise money for the kids tuition, school attire, books, my own professional affiliation subscription fees and many others.
I guess this is normal to all parents. If I am affected by all these, I wonder how the families from the lower income group manage their finances.
Yes, it is the time to raise money for the kids tuition, school attire, books, my own professional affiliation subscription fees and many others.
I guess this is normal to all parents. If I am affected by all these, I wonder how the families from the lower income group manage their finances.
Landslides
Landslides happened in Melawati reveal a few items about human nature.
These are:
The same thing is happening in Bukit Antarabangsa. These victims must have done something wrong that they are being punished this way, that is what we say for the soul to handle such complex issues.
Nevertheless, some other people harp on this very tragedy to justify their action. No development is to be done on slopes, they say. We do not want the same thing happens to Bukit antarabangsa happens to us. Funny thing is the slopes has been used in Mont Kiara, Pantai Dalam, Fraser Hills and the rest for many years yet the development there are still steady. Yet in Bukit Antarabangsa, the tragedy happened twice in the last 17 years.
The engineers can do wonders but it is up to us to ensure that the condition remain as it is. Unscrupulous developments and lack of proper maintenence is the cause of these problems. At least tthet is what I think.
These are:
- Malaysians act only after a tragedy occurs, faster if the victims are rich.
- Many Acts and Regulations will be passed later but to no enforcement.
- We have short term memory, we will soon forget about the whole issue in say three months time.
- Politicians take the opportunity in this tragedy to promote themselves.
- Some of the victims are unappreciating lots.
- Some of those who helps come with the intention to loot
- Many will take this example to further enforce their reasoning why development should not be done elsewhere at slopes.
The same thing is happening in Bukit Antarabangsa. These victims must have done something wrong that they are being punished this way, that is what we say for the soul to handle such complex issues.
Nevertheless, some other people harp on this very tragedy to justify their action. No development is to be done on slopes, they say. We do not want the same thing happens to Bukit antarabangsa happens to us. Funny thing is the slopes has been used in Mont Kiara, Pantai Dalam, Fraser Hills and the rest for many years yet the development there are still steady. Yet in Bukit Antarabangsa, the tragedy happened twice in the last 17 years.
The engineers can do wonders but it is up to us to ensure that the condition remain as it is. Unscrupulous developments and lack of proper maintenence is the cause of these problems. At least tthet is what I think.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Daus tunang at Muar
It was Saturday 3rd December 2008.
My last brother in law is finally getting closer to get married. He shall be the last one in my wife's family to get hitched.
Which brings to another issue, my niece also wants to get married or at least to get engaged as well.
Unfortunately, the mother did not approve giving the reason that she has to complete her studies first before thinking of anything else.
My experience tells me that getting in love could be a good thing. Break up is the worst. If you have found some body that you love, get married. Enjoy life together. We welcome any boy or girl who wants to spends his or life with our daughters or sons.
But, once you got married, you have to assume responsibility. That is all that we as parents asked for.
My last brother in law is finally getting closer to get married. He shall be the last one in my wife's family to get hitched.
Which brings to another issue, my niece also wants to get married or at least to get engaged as well.
Unfortunately, the mother did not approve giving the reason that she has to complete her studies first before thinking of anything else.
My experience tells me that getting in love could be a good thing. Break up is the worst. If you have found some body that you love, get married. Enjoy life together. We welcome any boy or girl who wants to spends his or life with our daughters or sons.
But, once you got married, you have to assume responsibility. That is all that we as parents asked for.
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Harta
I cannot believe because of a piece of land, family members do not talk to each other and some did not come back to see their parents. And I am looking at some one who sends his sons and daughter to religious school.
I pity that all the prayers are not counted.
I pity that the younger forget all the deeds that the elder has done earlier. No more are the memories of the elder taking care of the younger, the sending off to school, staying late nights to take care when the younger is sick, how the elder tries to send the younger to school etc.
I just wish that my kids will look beyond the harta, materialistic things. As far as I am concerned, they are my harta and if I cannot managed my harta, then it would be the saddest day in my life.
I pity that all the prayers are not counted.
I pity that the younger forget all the deeds that the elder has done earlier. No more are the memories of the elder taking care of the younger, the sending off to school, staying late nights to take care when the younger is sick, how the elder tries to send the younger to school etc.
I just wish that my kids will look beyond the harta, materialistic things. As far as I am concerned, they are my harta and if I cannot managed my harta, then it would be the saddest day in my life.
Pak Long
Last Thursday 30th October 2008, I received an sms from my sister that Pak Long is critical at Hospital Seremban.
Many things came into my mind at that time, and one of them is we did not visit his family during Hari Raya this year.
Being the 30th October, the day is also the 30th Syahwal 1429H, the last day of Hari Raya. Maybe I should give him a visit, nevertheless.
I reached Hospital Besar at 3pm and left at 4.15 pm.
Pak Long died at 5.15pm the same evening.
Innalillahi wainna hi ro ji un. May he RIP.
Many things came into my mind at that time, and one of them is we did not visit his family during Hari Raya this year.
Being the 30th October, the day is also the 30th Syahwal 1429H, the last day of Hari Raya. Maybe I should give him a visit, nevertheless.
I reached Hospital Besar at 3pm and left at 4.15 pm.
Pak Long died at 5.15pm the same evening.
Innalillahi wainna hi ro ji un. May he RIP.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Victoria Institution
A school with great history.
Before there were MRSM, SMSes and other boarding schools, VI is the place to be. It still is for those in KL who does not wish to go to boarding schools.
But then again, you can go to the best school but if you do not take the opportunity to learn and the opportunity that the school has to offer, might as well go to a normal school.
I did not expect to become what I am now even though many believe that I would. But to me the gathering of former Victorians are not to gauge where you are in the relation to your former classmates or form mates but to exchange latest news and views and to reminisce the good old times which has been repeated so many times that if it is on a record player, the player would go bust by now.
The message is, it is not the school which is important but the students. The school is a stage and the players are the students. We decide on the play.
Before there were MRSM, SMSes and other boarding schools, VI is the place to be. It still is for those in KL who does not wish to go to boarding schools.
But then again, you can go to the best school but if you do not take the opportunity to learn and the opportunity that the school has to offer, might as well go to a normal school.
I did not expect to become what I am now even though many believe that I would. But to me the gathering of former Victorians are not to gauge where you are in the relation to your former classmates or form mates but to exchange latest news and views and to reminisce the good old times which has been repeated so many times that if it is on a record player, the player would go bust by now.
The message is, it is not the school which is important but the students. The school is a stage and the players are the students. We decide on the play.
The pressure is always on the women
The missus told me of her friend having an affair with a married person. I know personally a woman having an affair with a married man, who is willing to accept her as a second wife. One of my friends in school, a girl, cut off her engagement to her boyfriend as she does not in the marriage institution (her parents divorced). The funny part is she is extremely close to her boy friend (former fiancee) still.
One thing that the women should know that like any other animals, the males would like to disseminate their seeds to as many partners as possible.
God make it balanced by having the females being very selective in choosing their partners, producing the best off spring and most likely to survive.
Back to the issue again, I do believe that the men that I have mentioned above are thinking not with the head on their shoulders. Hey, like the PKR man who was caught having sex with China Dolls said, if it is a sedekah,why refuse!. Exactly a male mentality trying to reproduce as much off spring as possible, better if free of charge. The British have a saying "Why buy when you can get it for free".
I have a male friend, who happens to be one of my better friends, who is until now unmarried and enjoying free items. But then again, happiness of having a spouse that you respect and children who are not only your off springs but double up as your best friends value is priceless.
One thing that the women should know that like any other animals, the males would like to disseminate their seeds to as many partners as possible.
God make it balanced by having the females being very selective in choosing their partners, producing the best off spring and most likely to survive.
Back to the issue again, I do believe that the men that I have mentioned above are thinking not with the head on their shoulders. Hey, like the PKR man who was caught having sex with China Dolls said, if it is a sedekah,why refuse!. Exactly a male mentality trying to reproduce as much off spring as possible, better if free of charge. The British have a saying "Why buy when you can get it for free".
I have a male friend, who happens to be one of my better friends, who is until now unmarried and enjoying free items. But then again, happiness of having a spouse that you respect and children who are not only your off springs but double up as your best friends value is priceless.
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Males from Negri Sembilan
Negri practices Adat Perpatih which gives the harta pesaka to the women.
The tanah adat cannot be sold and to be handed down from mother to daughter and so on. Therefore the land itself has no monetary value and the males cannot own any of the tanah adat but can live in the wife's house on tanah adat.
Many male relatives have ventured out from Negri even before Merdeka and many resides in Kuala Lumpur.
The women are also venturing out following the males and what is left is tanah adat not being cultivated and left unattended.
The men and women most likely, like me, marry spouses from other states and what is left are memories of the place, which will not be shared by the later generations.
The tanah adat cannot be sold and to be handed down from mother to daughter and so on. Therefore the land itself has no monetary value and the males cannot own any of the tanah adat but can live in the wife's house on tanah adat.
Many male relatives have ventured out from Negri even before Merdeka and many resides in Kuala Lumpur.
The women are also venturing out following the males and what is left is tanah adat not being cultivated and left unattended.
The men and women most likely, like me, marry spouses from other states and what is left are memories of the place, which will not be shared by the later generations.
Shah Rukh Khan a Datuk
The Malacca government justifying their conferment of a Datukship to the Bollywood actor for his contribution to Malacca.
He danced in front of A Famosa and several other places in a few of his films and that indirectly promotes Malacca.
Wow, I watched these movies said being filmed in Malacca. I, even as a Malaysian, cannot remember that they danced in Malacca, how do you expect non Malaysians to know.
Why do not they confer Datukship to Juhi Chawla or Kajol as well?
He danced in front of A Famosa and several other places in a few of his films and that indirectly promotes Malacca.
Wow, I watched these movies said being filmed in Malacca. I, even as a Malaysian, cannot remember that they danced in Malacca, how do you expect non Malaysians to know.
Why do not they confer Datukship to Juhi Chawla or Kajol as well?
Being bias
I noticed that many aligned with one party is almost always not hear the other side of the story.
It is strange that while the heads are okay with each other, it is almost always the followers who argue.
Politicians being one are always looking for issues to get people excited, but we can not let our lives be affected by these politicians.
It is strange that while the heads are okay with each other, it is almost always the followers who argue.
Politicians being one are always looking for issues to get people excited, but we can not let our lives be affected by these politicians.
Oil and its effect on prices
I always believe that the government must try its very best to control oil prices.
Once oil prices is increased, all goods prices are increased.
The prices of oil has gone down, but the prices of goods still remains.
Politicians should look at the big picture!!!!
Once oil prices is increased, all goods prices are increased.
The prices of oil has gone down, but the prices of goods still remains.
Politicians should look at the big picture!!!!
We are full of opposites
The government is trying to promote the masses to use public transportation, but at the same time we are a car manufacturing country, the agreement between the highway concessionaires and the government relies on the fact that the volume of cars plying these highways increases every year.
We like to watch soccer, especially good ones, but Malaysia does not even have a descent team.
There is this thing called Malaysian Malaysia but the various races advocated ethnic education.
The Banglas could speak Bahasa only after one year of being in Malaysia, but many cannot speak that language well even being born here.
Islam promotes silaturrahim but the first thing normally a person being told is not to mix with them is that they eat pork and have dogs in the houses.
Liquor is haram. Similarly is pork. But the Muslim frequents pubs and drink.
The parents who complains about the unfairness being charged RM 30 for activities are mostly those who spent RM 8 a day for cigarettes.
Some Malay parents make noise for paying RM 1,000 for university fees. Some IPTS charge RM 10,000 for one year education.
It does not make sense when the government has to pay and compensate to evacuate squatters. You are penalized for taking your land back?
Kuils are being built illegally (almost always), and you need to compensate the community for taking back your land?.
Why are the Muslims always rely on the government to build their mosques?
Islam promotes the attitude of caring and looking after the unfortunates, but almost always the non Muslims are the ones who practices this philosophy?
Hans Isaac, Maya Karin, Sarimah Ibrahim speaks descent Bahasa Malaysia, but the Malays think they sound stupid when they speak in that language.
We like to watch soccer, especially good ones, but Malaysia does not even have a descent team.
There is this thing called Malaysian Malaysia but the various races advocated ethnic education.
The Banglas could speak Bahasa only after one year of being in Malaysia, but many cannot speak that language well even being born here.
Islam promotes silaturrahim but the first thing normally a person being told is not to mix with them is that they eat pork and have dogs in the houses.
Liquor is haram. Similarly is pork. But the Muslim frequents pubs and drink.
The parents who complains about the unfairness being charged RM 30 for activities are mostly those who spent RM 8 a day for cigarettes.
Some Malay parents make noise for paying RM 1,000 for university fees. Some IPTS charge RM 10,000 for one year education.
It does not make sense when the government has to pay and compensate to evacuate squatters. You are penalized for taking your land back?
Kuils are being built illegally (almost always), and you need to compensate the community for taking back your land?.
Why are the Muslims always rely on the government to build their mosques?
Islam promotes the attitude of caring and looking after the unfortunates, but almost always the non Muslims are the ones who practices this philosophy?
Hans Isaac, Maya Karin, Sarimah Ibrahim speaks descent Bahasa Malaysia, but the Malays think they sound stupid when they speak in that language.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Dik Ammar
Ammar
The youngest, and most probably remain as that.
Born on the second last day of the year, and the youngest in his group age anytime.
He was born with tyroid irregularities when he was an infant and until last year he was under medication to substitute the hormone not produced by the gland.
That medication makes him look like a flower horn fish when younger and very cute wide glassy eyes.
Playful and very interested in cartoons, bright colors and coloring.
The cartoon of the day is Ben 10, and Kung Fu Panda in a close second.
Likes to strike a pose and very aware of how he looks.
The youngest, and most probably remain as that.
Born on the second last day of the year, and the youngest in his group age anytime.
He was born with tyroid irregularities when he was an infant and until last year he was under medication to substitute the hormone not produced by the gland.
That medication makes him look like a flower horn fish when younger and very cute wide glassy eyes.
Playful and very interested in cartoons, bright colors and coloring.
The cartoon of the day is Ben 10, and Kung Fu Panda in a close second.
Likes to strike a pose and very aware of how he looks.
Kak Ya
Cahaya Athirah
The lady of the lot
Looks like Abang Ngah but that is where the similarity stops.
Manja
She reads comics, but very seldom studies at home or doing homework. As long as she produces good results, I would allow it.
Very close to Nini, Aiman's sister.
Direct opposite of Kak Awin.
The lady of the lot
Looks like Abang Ngah but that is where the similarity stops.
Manja
She reads comics, but very seldom studies at home or doing homework. As long as she produces good results, I would allow it.
Very close to Nini, Aiman's sister.
Direct opposite of Kak Awin.
Kak Awin
Cahaya Azureen
I always told her that she is my favorite first daughter. (Think about it!)
Looks like her Mak Lang Aziah when she was smaller.
Grumpy like Abang Long and reminds me of me when I was younger.
Hardworking and focussed. She is aiming for hair rebonding if she managed to be the top three in her class.
Very close to Nana. Aiman's sister.
Very disciplined, she seldoms stays awake beyond 9.30pm.
She has a mind of her own and stubborn. Hmmm..... Like daughter like father.
I always told her that she is my favorite first daughter. (Think about it!)
Looks like her Mak Lang Aziah when she was smaller.
Grumpy like Abang Long and reminds me of me when I was younger.
Hardworking and focussed. She is aiming for hair rebonding if she managed to be the top three in her class.
Very close to Nana. Aiman's sister.
Very disciplined, she seldoms stays awake beyond 9.30pm.
She has a mind of her own and stubborn. Hmmm..... Like daughter like father.
Abang Ngah
Azrai
The most playful and cheerful of all our kids.
Good brains but extremely difficult to ask him to read. I have always maintained my advise that if he reads, he will be extremely successful.
His best friend is Aiman for the last 7 to 8 years, since we moved to Taman Sri Gombak. His best friend is like an adopted son to us.
Extremely good in playing computer online interactive games, based on the information provided by his friends.
Good PR.
But like Abang Long and Aiman, very difficult to convince them to wear underwear.
The most playful and cheerful of all our kids.
Good brains but extremely difficult to ask him to read. I have always maintained my advise that if he reads, he will be extremely successful.
His best friend is Aiman for the last 7 to 8 years, since we moved to Taman Sri Gombak. His best friend is like an adopted son to us.
Extremely good in playing computer online interactive games, based on the information provided by his friends.
Good PR.
But like Abang Long and Aiman, very difficult to convince them to wear underwear.
Abang Long
Arief
He calls himself Abang Long which even the older ones still call him that.
Unlike Abang Ngah, he is more careful and reserved. There is a thin line between shy and scared (lack of confidence). Despite his saying that he belongs to the former, the missus and I think that he crossed that line many times over.
He is in MRSM and we believe he likes it there.
We cannot wait to see our first born to come home every time (empty nest syndrome!)
He calls himself Abang Long which even the older ones still call him that.
Unlike Abang Ngah, he is more careful and reserved. There is a thin line between shy and scared (lack of confidence). Despite his saying that he belongs to the former, the missus and I think that he crossed that line many times over.
He is in MRSM and we believe he likes it there.
We cannot wait to see our first born to come home every time (empty nest syndrome!)
The Wife
We were married in 1991 after a 6 year courtship.
The missus saw me as what I was, from being a rotund fella to the shape that I am now.
She was my inspiration, and still is. Her character develops from a silly girl to a more complicated and complex woman that she is now. Sometimes I miss the old traits of her, but then again I changed quite a bit as well.
The last thing I would do is to hurt her feelings. I guess the feeling that I have towards her is not only love but also respect and admiration.
We are blessed with 5 kids and alhamdulillah they are quite well behaved.
The missus saw me as what I was, from being a rotund fella to the shape that I am now.
She was my inspiration, and still is. Her character develops from a silly girl to a more complicated and complex woman that she is now. Sometimes I miss the old traits of her, but then again I changed quite a bit as well.
The last thing I would do is to hurt her feelings. I guess the feeling that I have towards her is not only love but also respect and admiration.
We are blessed with 5 kids and alhamdulillah they are quite well behaved.
Relationships
Humans are easily affected by their emotions. These sudden bursts clouds all logics and may, if not looked at seriously, destroy the relationship that takes years to develop.
Even worse, for siblings, kins and families, the failure to think rationally may destroy the memories of the good times when things are well.
During the Hari Raya holidays, my daughter was disappointed with her eldest brother for being haughty and non friendly. As a father, and having seen the effect of siblings do not talk to each other for trivial and petty issues (even it involves land matters!), I see the matter as serious. Gone are the memories when the siblings gone through hardship together, the elder taking care of the younger and the joy that they share during festivals.
My rationale is very simple, do not get the bad, say 20%, issues eclipses the other 80% good qualities of person. If Tun Mahathir can talk to Tok Guru Nik Aziz, Mr Lim Kit Siang can come to Pak Lah's Hari Raya open house and be civilized about it, why can't we?
Interesting note that I read some time ago :-
A woman will think of the good things in a soured relationship but a man is exactly the opposite.
Even worse, for siblings, kins and families, the failure to think rationally may destroy the memories of the good times when things are well.
During the Hari Raya holidays, my daughter was disappointed with her eldest brother for being haughty and non friendly. As a father, and having seen the effect of siblings do not talk to each other for trivial and petty issues (even it involves land matters!), I see the matter as serious. Gone are the memories when the siblings gone through hardship together, the elder taking care of the younger and the joy that they share during festivals.
My rationale is very simple, do not get the bad, say 20%, issues eclipses the other 80% good qualities of person. If Tun Mahathir can talk to Tok Guru Nik Aziz, Mr Lim Kit Siang can come to Pak Lah's Hari Raya open house and be civilized about it, why can't we?
Interesting note that I read some time ago :-
A woman will think of the good things in a soured relationship but a man is exactly the opposite.
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